Breaking Free: Share Your Wisdom Without Following the Rules

Has it ever struck you how much of the business advice out there speaks to the crowd but never really sees you as an individual?

So much of what's being created and offered doesn't truly help you find YOUR unique way forward. Instead, it tries to squeeze you into a convenient, easy-to-package box, the "my way or the highway" approach that completely misses what makes you and your wisdom special.

For compassionate, creative and neurodivergent women entrepreneurs, this one-size-fits-all mentality creates a peculiar catch-22. You feel deeply called to share your unique perspectives and wisdom, yet the conventional paths to doing so often feel draining or inauthentic. You dread creating another "7 steps to success" guide when your mind naturally works in spirals, not straight lines. You struggle with showing up for that weekly live video when your energy ebbs and flows unpredictably. And those templated sales pages? They never quite capture the nuanced, heartfelt way you actually connect with people.

It's time we found a way to share our wisdom that actually supports you, not some generic ideal of what an entrepreneur "should" be. A way that isn't overwhelming to create but feels like a natural extension of what you love. When your approach aligns with your authentic self, it naturally resonates with your audience, making it easier to write and talk about your purpose and the difference you make. Those who align with your vision will want to participate, and pay for it.

## The visibility challenge

You've likely spent countless hours searching for the right support system, someone genuinely compassionate, aligned with your values, who communicates on your wavelength without forcing you into rigid systems. Someone who gets that telling you what to do or hemming you into predetermined structures isn't helpful.

Meanwhile, you're experimenting with various platforms, trying to find ones with an energy and interface that feel intuitive to your particular way of thinking. The constant adaptation is exhausting, making business expansion frustratingly slow and never guaranteed.

Yet beneath these challenges lies a profound truth: you possess extraordinary wisdom and experience. Your lifetime of detailed sensory experiences, your ability to quickly connect seemingly unrelated dots, your deep compassion, all of these create a well of insight that could genuinely help others if shared in the right way.

But here's where the tension becomes palpable. Sharing that wisdom requires visibility. And traditional visibility approaches often feel misaligned with how you naturally operate in the world.

## When traditional approaches become counterproductive

The conventional wisdom around sharing your knowledge follows a predictable formula: create a course with an introduction module, three core teaching modules, implementation module, conclusion. Rinse and repeat.

But what if that structure is actually suffocating your unique wisdom rather than showcasing it?

For many of us, the traditional course model goes against the natural tides of our psyche and body. It demands a type of performance that drains rather than energises, a linear thinking approach that feels foreign to our spiralling, connecting minds.

I call this dilemma the "visibility paradox", needing to be seen while feeling that conventional visibility channels demand you become someone else entirely.

## Rethinking visibility on your terms

What would happen if we completely reimagined how wisdom could be shared? If we designed approaches to visibility and knowledge sharing that worked with your natural energetic flow rather than against it?

This isn't just about ROI or business metrics. It's about creating sustainable ways to bring your best self forward without burnout. It's about attracting people who genuinely want to be in your orbit and are willing to pay to expand their world through your unique lens.

I've watched clients light up when they discover where their natural energy wants to flow. The visual thinker who struggled with writing scripts suddenly finding her voice. The analytical mind who found ways to make complex ideas accessible through unexpected pathways. The natural storyteller who stopped forcing herself into bullet points and frameworks.

When we attune to our innate strengths, wisdom sharing becomes energising rather than depleting:

* Are you naturally visual? Conceptual? Relational? Systematic?

* Do you come alive in conversation or in quiet reflection?

* Are you drawn to depth with a few or breadth with many?

* Do you think in metaphors or precise definitions?

* Does your energy rise when creating structure or when flowing organically?

There's no right answer here. What matters is aligning your approach with where your energy naturally wants to go.

For some, this might look like creating spaces where deep conversation can unfold naturally. For others, it might involve visual storytelling that captures complex ideas in accessible ways. Some might discover they shine most brightly when connecting concepts that others see as unrelated. Others might find their power in distilling wisdom into clear, elegant frameworks.

## When alignment creates magic

There we were, gathered in a lovely creative studio opposite a park with huge gum trees. Soft light filtered in through the windows, filling the room with calm. The space was adorned with artisan items, and at its centre stood a roundtable with fewer than 10 chairs and a delicious, inviting platter. I'd invited them for what I'd billed as the first Barefoot Businesswomen's Network roundtable. I had plans. An agenda even.

I was completely unprepared for what was about to unfold.

We went deep and personal almost immediately. The conversation flowed to places I never expected, beyond business mechanics into the terrain of our authentic selves. I watched as each woman's shoulders relaxed, as voices became more confident, as laughter came more easily.

We'd found our people. We felt seen. At ease. It was profound.

As I put the chairs back into my dining room and collected the coffee mugs, I found myself replaying the conversations in my mind. The gathering had taken place in the shop at the front of my home, and now in the quiet aftermath, a thought crystallised: what if business itself, and by extension, how we teach and share our wisdom, has been corseted into structures that don't actually serve how women naturally connect and communicate?

The idea of breaking free from traditional structures wasn't new to me. But this time something was different. I felt light, excited, connected... floaty even! There was no exhaustion, no noise in my head. That physical sensation drove home what it REALLY means to connect in a way that feels good.

## Finding strength in vulnerability

One of my online clients shared something during a session that completely shifted the energy of our group. She'd been quiet for weeks, always professional and polished in her contributions. Then one day, she unmuted herself and simply said, "I don't think I can do this the way everyone else seems to."

There was a moment of silence, then something remarkable happened. One by one, others began sharing their own doubts, their own struggles with trying to fit their unique approaches into standardised formats.

The conversation that followed was the most honest discussion of authenticity and business I've ever witnessed. Ideas began flowing, not about how to follow the rules more effectively, but about how to rewrite them altogether. By showing her vulnerability, she created space for collective wisdom that transcended typical business advice.

Sometimes our protective walls don't actually protect us, they prevent the very connection that generates true solutions.

## Your quirks are your superpowers

During an online workshop, I noticed a client who kept apologising for her "scattered" way of explaining concepts. She would start with one idea, connect it to something seemingly unrelated, then circle back around to make her point. After each contribution, she'd add, "Sorry, that probably didn't make sense."

What she didn't realise was that participants were messaging me privately about how her connections helped them see patterns they'd never noticed before. Her unique thought process wasn't a liability—it was illuminating perspectives that linear thinking couldn't access.

When I shared this feedback with her, something shifted. She stopped apologising and started embracing her natural way of connecting ideas. Her contributions became even richer, and others began experimenting with their own authentic approaches too.

What aspects of yourself have you been hiding that might actually be your greatest strengths?

## The UnCourse approach

When I talk with businesswomen about sharing their wisdom, I'm often met with the same response: "But I don't want to create a course."

There's wisdom in that resistance. It's not about avoiding teaching, it's about questioning the containers we've been told we must use.

What if we stopped forcing ourselves into predetermined formats and asked deeper questions instead?

* What if the way you naturally process information is exactly how your ideal clients need to receive it?

* What if the aspects of your approach that feel too quirky or unconventional are precisely what will create the deepest transformation?

* What if the timing, scale, and format of your wisdom sharing were aligned with your current life and business rather than some external standard?

These questions aren't merely philosophical, they're practical doorways to discovering approaches that feel energising rather than depleting.

When we give ourselves permission to explore beyond conventional formats, we often discover that the most powerful ways to share our wisdom were available to us all along, hiding in plain sight amid our natural tendencies and strengths.

## The Swatch watch moment

Have you watched "Why Women Kill"? There's that moment where Simone wears the gaudy Swatch watch her young lover gave her, when she's spent her life feeling she only fitted into her social group if she presented in Cartier and designer diamonds. It sends us a message that she doesn't care what her so called friends think anymore. Life's too short to pretend.

It struck me that many of us are forcing ourselves to create designer label businesses when perhaps what would feel more authentic, and ultimately more valuable, is creating something more akin to a Swatch. Something that embraces playfulness, colour, and genuine connection rather than rigid adherence to perceived status and structure.

That roundtable gathering was my Swatch watch moment. Valuable not because it followed the rules, but because it broke them in all the right ways.

## Finding your way forward

For weeks after that gathering, I felt this remarkable lightness, peace, and sense of connection. There was the occasional flicker of doubt, "Did that really happen? Was it just me?", because I often react based on emotions before I've fully processed them. It's a funny thing, I can be incredibly intuitive and spot on when it comes to other people, but with myself, there's always more processing required. A neurodivergent blessing and challenge all wrapped into one.

But my body knew the truth before my mind had finished analysing it. I felt safe. There was no inner voice wondering if I'd said something wrong. No exhaustion from trying to fit in. Just a profound sense of rightness that lingered.

When I returned to my desk after that transformative gathering, I scrapped the rigid outline I'd been forcing myself to follow and started fresh. I asked myself what would feel like coming home rather than what would look impressive to others.

The approach that emerged looked nothing like what I'd planned. And it felt like finally being able to breathe.

## Your wisdom, your way

There's no one size fits all approach to sharing your wisdom. What works for one person might feel completely wrong for another.

The invitation here isn't to abandon all structure. It's to find the structures that feel like home to you. That amplify your natural teaching style rather than diminish it.

Like Simone's joy in her colourful Swatch watch when everyone expected her to want designer diamonds, your greatest impact might come from embracing what truly brings you joy rather than what you think you "should" do.

## Ready to share your wisdom, your way?

If this resonates with you, if you've felt that knot in your stomach when trying to fit your brilliance into frameworks that never quite feel right, I'd love to invite you to explore some essential questions:

* What are your teaching strengths? (You have them, even if you don't identify as a teacher)

* What combination of communication styles most helps your ideal clients to engage?

* What type of container most suits where you are in your business right now that will help you grow towards the light where you naturally love to be?

These aren't simple questions with one-size-fits-all answers. They're doorways to discovering how your unique wisdom can be shared in ways that feel aligned and powerful.

If you're curious about exploring these questions more deeply, I've created the "Wisdom Sharing Deep Dive", an opportunity to discover approaches to sharing your wisdom that truly align with who you are and where you want to go.

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Your wisdom deserves to be shared in ways that feel like you. Not because that's the trendy thing to do, but because that's how your impact will be most profound.

*Image suggestion: A beautiful garden with both structured and wild elements, showing how both can coexist beautifully, much like how your approach to sharing wisdom can have some structure while still embracing your natural style.*